{"id":12986,"date":"2025-07-02T10:14:00","date_gmt":"2025-07-02T14:14:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pearl.davidsbridal.com\/inspiration\/?p=12986"},"modified":"2025-07-17T08:49:56","modified_gmt":"2025-07-17T12:49:56","slug":"how-to-say-no-to-being-a-bridesmaid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pearl.davidsbridal.com\/inspiration\/podcast\/how-to-say-no-to-being-a-bridesmaid\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Say No to Being a Bridesmaid (Without Losing a Friend) | 1-800-Bridesmaid"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Ring, ring! It\u2019s 1-800-Bridesmaid. In this episode, Jen is joined by Mariah Grumet, etiquette expert and author of <em>What Do I Do?<\/em>, a modern guide to wedding etiquette. Together they break down the often messy world of weddings\u2014where traditions, guest experience, and real human awkwardness collide. From whether you really have to handwrite thank-you notes, to how to say no to being a bridesmaid (or attending a wedding altogether), they explore why clear, upfront communication is the secret sauce to handling wedding stress\u2014on both sides. Plus, Mariah shares the difference between a partner and a plus-one (yep, they\u2019re not the same!), how to make your guests feel welcome without losing your own joy, and how to give the perfect polite no without guilt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"How to Say No to Being a Bridesmaid Without Losing Your Friendship\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/f6KXsM4Im7s?feature=oembed\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Episode Highlights:<br><\/strong>\ud83e\udde0 Why wedding etiquette is more about emotional intelligence than stuffy rules<br>\ud83e\udee3 The biggest mistakes couples make\u2014and how to avoid them<br>\ud83d\udcac How to exit long convos at your own wedding without feeling rude<br>\ud83c\udf81 The etiquette behind plus-ones, invitations, and sending gifts when you don\u2019t attend<br>\ud83c\udf7d\ufe0f Jen\u2019s embarrassing fork-and-knife confession (and Mariah\u2019s non-judgy rescue plan)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019ve ever wondered how to navigate weddings without stepping on toes\u2014or losing your mind\u2014this episode is packed with honest, modern advice (and a lot of laughs).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This episode is brought to you by <a href=\"http:\/\/pearl.davidsbridal.com\">Pearl Planner<\/a>: wedding planning powered by AI, fueled by love. Be one of the first to get started with our exclusive beta at <a href=\"http:\/\/pearl.davidsbridal.com\">pearl.davidsbridal.com<\/a>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Loved this episode? Watch more episodes of&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/playlist?list=PLnMvMRQEVZj4-9iOt0Fkq3j-rSj3vceAY\">1-800-Bridesmaid<\/a>&nbsp;and check out our other&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@LoveStoriesTV\/podcasts\">Love Stories by David\u2019s podcasts<\/a>!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ring, ring! It\u2019s 1-800-Bridesmaid. In this episode, Jen is joined by Mariah Grumet, etiquette expert and author of What Do I Do?, a modern guide to wedding etiquette. Together they break down the often messy world of weddings\u2014where traditions, guest experience, and real human awkwardness collide. 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