{"id":14271,"date":"2025-09-24T08:51:27","date_gmt":"2025-09-24T12:51:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pearl.davidsbridal.com\/inspiration\/?p=14271"},"modified":"2025-09-24T08:51:29","modified_gmt":"2025-09-24T12:51:29","slug":"1-800-bridesmaid-debbie-missud","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pearl.davidsbridal.com\/inspiration\/podcast\/1-800-bridesmaid-debbie-missud\/","title":{"rendered":"Trying to Be the Perfect Bridesmaid Is Destroying Me | 1-800-Bridesmaid"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Ring, ring! It\u2019s 1-800-Bridesmaid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this episode, Jen is joined by therapist and anxiety expert Debbie Missud, founder of the Manhattan Psychotherapy Collective, to dig into what happens when being \u201cthe easy bridesmaid\u201d starts quietly wrecking your mental health. 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