As the modern wedding continues to evolve, so do the expectations of wedding guests! It doesn’t matter if you’re attending a backyard micro-wedding or jetting off to a formal destination affair—either way, you’ll need to know how to navigate wedding guest etiquette. From outfit dos and don’ts to the latest RSVP rules, gift guidance, and what to pack in your overnight bag, we’ve compiled your complete wedding guest survival kit for 2025.

What to Wear to a Wedding in 2025

Dress Codes Decoded: Black-tie, semi-formal, cocktail—wedding dress codes can be confusing. When in doubt, follow the couple’s lead and err on the side of dressier. No clue what to wear? Ask the couple or consult their wedding website.

Color Considerations: Avoid white—yes, absolutely still a rule unless the bride says otherwise—and when in doubt, skip overly bridal-looking neutrals. If you have to ask yourself or text a friend “Is this too white for a wedding?!” it’s already time to pick something else. Jewel tones, floral prints, and pastels are wedding guest favorites for 2025. Black is also now a chic and accepted choice for most ceremonies…just check the vibe of the event.

Seasonal Style: Spring and summer weddings call for lightweight fabrics like chiffon or linen, breathable shoes (wedges or block heels recommended for garden and outdoor events!), and statement accessories. For fall and early winter ceremonies, we love rich tones, velvets or textured fabrics, and layered looks. 

What to Pack: The Wedding Guest Survival Kit

Getting caught unprepared? Not you! You’ll be glad to have these wedding guest essentials in your bag:

• Fashion tape & safety pins: Save yourself from wardrobe malfunctions!
• Portable phone charger: To snap some pics or call a ride, you’ll need a fully charged phone.
• Stain remover pen or wipes: Red wine…while delicious, definitely not your dress’s friend!
• Lipstick or touch-up kit: You’ll stay ready for your close-up (wedding photogs are sneaky!).
• Tissues: For happy tears—trust us, you’ll need them.
• Cash, card, or Apple Wallet: For the bar, valet, or tipping, you’ll be glad you had something on you.
• Gift or card: If not sent in advance, don’t forget your wedding gift for the couple.

If you’re traveling, make sure you add:

• An extra outfit: And keep it in your carry-on! If your luggage gets lost or there’s a sudden weather change, you’ll be happy to have a backup. 
• Printed invitation: Or screenshot of the wedding location and timeline. Keep all your info handy so you can arrive on time and at the right place!
• Travel docs: Don’t forget the necessities if you’re getting on a plane: Your passport, Real ID, boarding pass, etc.

Modern Wedding Guest Etiquette Tips

Wedding etiquette is shifting, not being thrown out the window. If you’ve RSVP’d “yes” to a wedding this season, make sure you follow the modern couple’s expectations.

RSVP Promptly: Don’t ghost the RSVP. Respond as soon as you can so your hosts have an accurate headcount for catering and seating.

Respect the Plus One: Only bring a guest if your invitation includes one. Zero assumptions allowed!

Stick to the Timeline: 99.99% of the time, the time on the invitation is when the ceremony will begin. Show up at least—and we can’t stress this enough—15 to 30 minutes ahead of time to make sure you’re not running into the wedding party as they’re lining up.

Unplug Unless Otherwise Stated: Unless the couple has specifically encouraged guest photos, follow the “unplugged” wedding etiquette and keep phones pocketed during the ceremony. They hired a photographer for a reason!

Gifts and Gratuity: If the couple has a registry, use it. It ensures you’re giving something they actually want or need. However, we totally get that bringing a big box to the venue is a hassle and a half! Ship your gift directly or bring a card with a cash gift if that’s the couple’s preference. Finally, if you’re attending a destination wedding, your presence is often considered the gift—but it’s always good to check if the couple has a small registry anyway.

Great wedding guests like you don’t just show up—they show up prepared. Follow these wedding guest etiquette tips and packing the essentials, and you’ll not only feel confident (and look great), but you’ll also honor the couple’s big day with grace and gratitude. Cheers to being the best-dressed, best-mannered guest in the room!

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